Is it actually intended to protect you, or is it intended to constantly neg you to the point you become a hollow shell of a woman, overly eager to please others out of fear for hypotheticals, no longer capable of recognizing good in others so you’ll settle for the abusive relationships you’ve been conditioned to expect?
I don’t consider women human beings capable of discerning a good situation from a bad one.
I believe that women are so simple minded that warning them of the worst case scenario irrevocably ruins them socially.
I think that if we keep showing women the consequences of not being wary of men who may be violent, they will inexplicably choose abusive relationships where that violence is ever present.
Man, you sound like you have zero respect for women whatsoever. You really think that women are so weak minded as a whole that just being exposed to the violence primarily levied against women is going to break all women mentally?
It’s not something specific about women, but people in general respond poorly to being constantly bombarded with fear porn. the only thing specific to women in this scenario is the flavour of fear porn being peddled. There are abundant examples of other flavours designed to antagonize other demographics throughout the media landscape.
If what you’re saying is that people respond poorly in general to the news, then fine. But that’s hardly the same thing as being negged into abusive relationships.
Women are physically inferior to men, and most men don’t have a sense of romantic entitlement towards other men. I really can’t believe I have to explain why the dynamic of men telling another man no is different from a woman doing the same.
Men have been screaming at me in public about their penis feelings since i was in primary school and that’s the very least of it. Women don’t need the media to know we’re in danger. Men will bombard us with enough sexual harrassment to do that themselves.
I’m posting this thinking you only see gaslighting as its intentional use by other people.
But there’s also the instance of self-gaslighting, where one creates their own demons.
We’ll take as an example the idea of the movie “Number 23”. Where Jim Carrey plays a man who becomes obsessed with the number 23, starts seeing it everywhere and begins the search for a conspiracy related to it.
When we begin to fear something, we start taking it as a serious possibly of happening. We get drawn by news we’d otherwise pay less attention to, we start searching our surroundings for the chance that something like that might happen, we begin to view potential aggressors with distrust.
And the longer we focus on this fear, the more it takes over and compromises our judgement.
This is where the self-gaslighting comes in. We twist the world to have it conform to this fear, second-guess every interaction, attribute hidden meanings to every conversation and consider anyone who might be able to act as we fear as someone willing to act in that way.
Self-gaslighting can be inferred from the comic above because all we see are the instances in which the fear is magnified in an otherwise normal day.
Catcalling, sticking too close in the subway, dismissive reactions, they’re all normal, rude behavior that happen to anyone, but in different ways.
Catcalling specifically happens to women as an uneducated attempt to flirt or show off. Most of the time it’s just a dumb ritual of teasing that most of the initiators simply forget about, but on the rare occasions that it devolves to violence, anyone can be a target: the woman in question, the friends the watched it happen or any random passerby that had the misfortune of being a passive observer.
Most women don’t stick around long enough to see that part happen though.
Sticking too close in the subway, if not by a violent individual who would be violent regardless when given the chance, is an awkward social need or a sign of depression.
Have you ever seen the meme about a guy relieving himself in the men’s restroom, only to have another guy come in and stop at a urinal right next to the first guy? That’s not just a meme.
Men have to suffer such individuals all the time.
And in the subway specifically, maybe the person is a creep. But also maybe they don’t care who sits around because they like that spot, it soothes them after a long day at work, it’s their one real joy and you’re in the way. Or maybe they’re socially awkward and want to start a conversation, but are too shy to do so in public. Or maybe they’re just a creep. Really, they’re probably just a creep. The subway brings out the weird in people.
And finally, dismissive reactions are normal in everything. We don’t want to live in fear, we don’t want to blow things out of proportions, we don’t want to engage in stressful situations all around.
It’s like going to WebMD, it says you have cancer, so you freak out, people tell you to chill and you’re upset they’re not freaking out with you.
You may consider the dismissal as a lack of emotional support, yet on the contrary, trying to calm you down is the best emotional support one can offer even though it’s done poorly. Freaking out doesn’t help, ever.
All in all, self-gaslighting into believing things are worse than they actually are is more common than we think. But the opposite is also very much true.
The dog sitting in a burning room meme saying “This is fine” is the gold standard in today’s society.
I think it’s valid to bring up gaslighting here since the poster they’re replying to is implying that we shouldn’t believe women are victims as much as they are. It’s pretty much a guarantee that everyone will know a woman who has been subject to sexual assault in their life.
Maybe don’t constantly listen what media says? Otherwise u will end up paranoid.
Maybe actually listen to women’s experiences, instead.
I can tell you haven’t.
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Guess what happened the two whole times I deliberately ignored the “paranoia.”
Go on. Guess.
Yeah, disregard advice destined to protect an endangered group when you belong to that group. That’s going to go reallllllly well.
Is it actually intended to protect you, or is it intended to constantly neg you to the point you become a hollow shell of a woman, overly eager to please others out of fear for hypotheticals, no longer capable of recognizing good in others so you’ll settle for the abusive relationships you’ve been conditioned to expect?
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Man, you sound like you have zero respect for women whatsoever. You really think that women are so weak minded as a whole that just being exposed to the violence primarily levied against women is going to break all women mentally?
It’s not something specific about women, but people in general respond poorly to being constantly bombarded with fear porn. the only thing specific to women in this scenario is the flavour of fear porn being peddled. There are abundant examples of other flavours designed to antagonize other demographics throughout the media landscape.
It’s not fear porn. It’s reality.
If what you’re saying is that people respond poorly in general to the news, then fine. But that’s hardly the same thing as being negged into abusive relationships.
You can use real scenarios as fear porn by hyper focusing on them, far beyond what’s reasonable, and to the exclusion of everything else.
You’re treading a fine line with that logic claiming that news like this is designed to neg women into being constantly afraid.
If making people aware of dangerous situations is a good thing, then being aware of how media can be used maliciously is also a good lesson.
Men are just as likely to get murdered by men as women are likely to get murdered by men.
And yet men are not afraid of talking to other men.
It ain’t the stats, it’s the perception.
Thank you for being the voice of reason, and backing it up with data, Any chance you can share the source?
FBI Crime Stats (from 2022, latest yearfor which data is available)
Women are physically inferior to men, and most men don’t have a sense of romantic entitlement towards other men. I really can’t believe I have to explain why the dynamic of men telling another man no is different from a woman doing the same.
Fear, of course. It’s a very simple dynamic.
Men have been screaming at me in public about their penis feelings since i was in primary school and that’s the very least of it. Women don’t need the media to know we’re in danger. Men will bombard us with enough sexual harrassment to do that themselves.
Funny how this is almost never what actually happens.
You kidding? Fear porn is a solid half of social media, at least.
I was denying the point that all fears women have are false or baseless.
If that’s what you thought I was saying, you’re not understanding my point.
No.fucking.shit. !!
I can’t believe you’re getting downvoted.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
It’s incredible how many people think gaslighting is literally any instance of saying something untrue.
But this instance is particularly egregious, because you didn’t even read the first sentence of the link you posted.
I’m posting this thinking you only see gaslighting as its intentional use by other people. But there’s also the instance of self-gaslighting, where one creates their own demons.
We’ll take as an example the idea of the movie “Number 23”. Where Jim Carrey plays a man who becomes obsessed with the number 23, starts seeing it everywhere and begins the search for a conspiracy related to it.
When we begin to fear something, we start taking it as a serious possibly of happening. We get drawn by news we’d otherwise pay less attention to, we start searching our surroundings for the chance that something like that might happen, we begin to view potential aggressors with distrust. And the longer we focus on this fear, the more it takes over and compromises our judgement. This is where the self-gaslighting comes in. We twist the world to have it conform to this fear, second-guess every interaction, attribute hidden meanings to every conversation and consider anyone who might be able to act as we fear as someone willing to act in that way.
Self-gaslighting can be inferred from the comic above because all we see are the instances in which the fear is magnified in an otherwise normal day.
Catcalling, sticking too close in the subway, dismissive reactions, they’re all normal, rude behavior that happen to anyone, but in different ways.
Catcalling specifically happens to women as an uneducated attempt to flirt or show off. Most of the time it’s just a dumb ritual of teasing that most of the initiators simply forget about, but on the rare occasions that it devolves to violence, anyone can be a target: the woman in question, the friends the watched it happen or any random passerby that had the misfortune of being a passive observer. Most women don’t stick around long enough to see that part happen though.
Sticking too close in the subway, if not by a violent individual who would be violent regardless when given the chance, is an awkward social need or a sign of depression. Have you ever seen the meme about a guy relieving himself in the men’s restroom, only to have another guy come in and stop at a urinal right next to the first guy? That’s not just a meme. Men have to suffer such individuals all the time.
And in the subway specifically, maybe the person is a creep. But also maybe they don’t care who sits around because they like that spot, it soothes them after a long day at work, it’s their one real joy and you’re in the way. Or maybe they’re socially awkward and want to start a conversation, but are too shy to do so in public. Or maybe they’re just a creep. Really, they’re probably just a creep. The subway brings out the weird in people.
And finally, dismissive reactions are normal in everything. We don’t want to live in fear, we don’t want to blow things out of proportions, we don’t want to engage in stressful situations all around. It’s like going to WebMD, it says you have cancer, so you freak out, people tell you to chill and you’re upset they’re not freaking out with you.
You may consider the dismissal as a lack of emotional support, yet on the contrary, trying to calm you down is the best emotional support one can offer even though it’s done poorly. Freaking out doesn’t help, ever.
All in all, self-gaslighting into believing things are worse than they actually are is more common than we think. But the opposite is also very much true. The dog sitting in a burning room meme saying “This is fine” is the gold standard in today’s society.
I think it’s valid to bring up gaslighting here since the poster they’re replying to is implying that we shouldn’t believe women are victims as much as they are. It’s pretty much a guarantee that everyone will know a woman who has been subject to sexual assault in their life.