“When he reached the New World, Cortezh burned hish ships. Ash a reshult hish men were well motivated.” —Capt. Ramius, played by Sean Connery in The Hunt for Red October

Appreciate that. Will fix.

I’m in the process of reading this (and a dozen other books lol). Interesting so far. Haven’t formed opinions yet. But definitely appreciate Bell Hooks bell hooks for having tackled this subject.

Apparently not.

I got nothin

I found this on skeptics stack exchange. Supposedly, it’s a hoax/urban legend that goes back way before the internet. (The entire stack exchange page on this topic is fun to read, btw)

The quote originally came from Prof. George T.W. Patrick of University of Iowa, who translated an ancient stone tablet into modern English and published in “Popular Science Monthly”, May 1913. The full text of the original can be found online at archive.org: https://archive.org/details/popularsciencemo82newy, page 493.

One writer found this same quote in a slightly earlier source dating to 1908.

Yet another writer noted that there was no Chaldea but …

… there was a stele of a King Naram-Sin of Akkad which has been exhibited in the Istanbul Archaeological Museum since 1892. The inscription on this stele is fragmentary and has nothing to do with degeneration.

https://skeptics.stackexchange.com/questions/4923/was-this-quote-on-a-clay-tablet-about-unruly-kids-written-by-an-assyrian

No one will dig up our Lemmy posts in 1000s of years. :(

Don’t even get me started on finding decent copper.

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True. It is plausible. At the same time I have to think that if the human race hasn’t evolved to factor cooperation in tribes in most cases, we wouldn’t be here discussing this.

My cat told me not to believe these lies spread by dogs.

Not op and I don’t think they forfeit that right at all.

What I have wrestled with is: where is the line between taking precautions against known threats and victim blaming?

Maybe the line is temporal.

After someone is victimized, we can acknowledge that and maybe keep our mouths shut with victim blaming nonsense like, “you should have done XYZ”. Because that doesn’t help, further hurts the victim, and saying it makes you an asshole.

Prior to being victimized isn’t it up to each of us to evaluate and manage personal risks given all the threats we face every day? I think so and I think each of us is responsible for learning about and managing risk and deciding what precautions to take.

That isn’t to say we must take every precaution no matter how impractical or outrageous (like not walking on the sidewalk or never taking nude selfies).

It is never acceptable to tell someone else what their risk tolerance is or to dictate to them what precautions to take.

Doing that is being an asshole.

And I now believe that is where the line is drawn.

It is shitty to tell others how to live their life. It is good, however, to be willing to help people be aware of and understand the risks they face and offer advice if asked, on mitigating those risks. Provided your goal is to help and you don’t act like a sanctimonious ass.

Whatever we do, we may still be victimized and the blame always rests squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrator. They took the action that victimized us.

If you couldn’t tell I do cybersecurity as a living. My job isn’t to manage risk, it’s to help others achieve their objectives while understanding and managing risks they face.

What are you trying to achieve?

I used to, once… Ah well, back to the pit of despair, see ya!

I hate that so much. If you’re smart and a good worker why give a crap?

THIS IS THE WAY… ?

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The part you’re missing is how very many times women have to deal with fucked up men. As a society we should be doing a lot better raising boys and doing a lot more for men. But that’s a whole other ball o wax.

Hey, you missed this part:

he yells, calls the woman names

Talk about how this part doesn’t happen because you’ve never personally seen it.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting

It’s pretty fucking unhinged, indeed.

Yeah. Hilarious.

Turn him down and he yells, calls the woman names, maybe attacks her now or later, stalks her, rapes her, murders her, kills a kid, shoots up a mall, or mows down a crowd with a van, or…

Men fear rejection, women fear being killed.

When they don’t get what they think they’re “owed”…