If your reaction to “Men can be threatening to women.” Is “Wow all men are murderers I guess we can’t talk to them anymore thanks feminism.” You’re probably a little too emotional for internet access.
It’s not all men are murderers, it’s enough men are sexually violent that 1 in 5 women are sexually assaulted in their lifetime and pretty much all women have a scary story. Yes, it’s a minority of men, but when there’s enough of them that you have a very real chance of being sexually assaulted at some point then it’s going to be scary regardless because you don’t know which ones it is.
Your reaction to that shouldn’t be “oh it’s only 20%, most women aren’t raped and the rest need to suck it up because it was just a scary experience”, it should be, “that’s fucking terrifying, I should be understanding and helpful”.
In my subjective experience, gender issues bring out the worst in Lemmy. There’s a small but very obnoxious contingent out there ready to fight, even if they have to put words in your mouth to do it, like you’ve pointed out.
If your reaction to “Men can be threatening to women.” Is “Wow all men are murderers I guess we can’t talk to them anymore thanks feminism.” You’re probably a little too emotional for internet access.
It’s not all men are murderers, it’s enough men are sexually violent that 1 in 5 women are sexually assaulted in their lifetime and pretty much all women have a scary story. Yes, it’s a minority of men, but when there’s enough of them that you have a very real chance of being sexually assaulted at some point then it’s going to be scary regardless because you don’t know which ones it is.
Your reaction to that shouldn’t be “oh it’s only 20%, most women aren’t raped and the rest need to suck it up because it was just a scary experience”, it should be, “that’s fucking terrifying, I should be understanding and helpful”.
I see where you’re at with the “too emotional”.
In my subjective experience, gender issues bring out the worst in Lemmy. There’s a small but very obnoxious contingent out there ready to fight, even if they have to put words in your mouth to do it, like you’ve pointed out.