That sounds like a relatively new feature.

The last time I tried Tinder (Tindr, straight people Grindr), it made me both give up on online dating and lose a bit of faith in humanity.

I’ve rarely been the victim of online harassment or trolling but holy hell - being an attractive woman on Tindr? Absolute win. Pretty much easy mode on any dating site in general.

Being an attractive man of the same caliber? Yeeehck. Holy shit, some people have absolutely miniscule egos and more time than proper sense. I won’t share personal incidents or examples here because I’d rather just forget and leave it all in the past.

I went right back to traditional meat-space and in-the-flesh dating. Fuck this noise about online profiles and photography. Let your neighbors find out who you are on their own terms, don’t shout it at them from the rooftops.

I ended up “settling” (not my opinion) on a girl with a golden soul that I met traditionally, through a friend of a friend. She’s not the best looker, but if the algorithm works as you say, I’d never have even met her, which is a shame. We’ve been together for eight years now, and I still adore her.

So yeah, in summary, fuck Tindr.

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