• paddirn@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    Is it similar for straight women then? Do straight women get uncomfortable when they see other naked women, but it’s “ok” when watching porn?

    I think the difference is the subject of the image/video. If it’s an image/video of just a naked guy with his dick hanging out, that’s the subject you’re supposed to be focused on. I’m like, “Ok, I don’t care about this, this does nothing for me.”

    Watching a naked dude in porn get his dick sucked or have sex, the activity and the woman is the focus and you’re often meant to stand in for the guy. The guy becomes even more sexually objectified than the woman, he’s just this background thing doing repetitive motions so that I can see the woman physically react to it. The more generic and unassuming the guy looks, the better, I literally want nothing the guy does to call attention to himself.

    That’s why older porn is so jarring sometimes because of the weird habit of cutting to the guy’s moaning face in the middle of everything. Like, what the fuck was the thinking behind that “technique”?

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      8 months ago

      As a straight woman, I don’t focus on the guy either and it’s weird when he gets the spotlight (although it’s very helpful when he is attractive). It’s more about putting myself in the woman’s shoes and having the activity done to “me”.

      And it may be a cultural thing but I’m not uncomfortable seeing other women naked.