Right, I must’ve overlooked that. My bad.

You can easily use it with Nextcloud, to name one example. So yeah, it’s a good suggestion.

Deal

+1 for starting out with Proxmox! I’m about to switch my main server over to it, and I wish I started out using it. I’ve played around with it for a while on a second server, and being able to use snapshots and Proxmox backups from the start would’ve saved me so much time.

And it won’t ever be true until you can pick up a PC running Linux in a big box store. I could see the Steam Deck (and Valve’s rumoured upcoming console) to make a dent in the PC gaming space, but it won’t make a difference to the purchasing decisions of your your aunt who uses her pc to check her emails.

Should corporate buyers ever get tired of MS’ shenanigans they might switch over to Ubuntu, but I’m not holding my breath for that.

Leaving anything else aside, I’d be really surprised if there was any EU entity that could afford to buy iPhone in its entirety in Europe - or at least not one for whom it makes sense to do it.

They advertise aggressively because running a VPN is ridiculously profitable. I do agree with your apprehensive feeling, but at the same time their advertisements do make sense.

Think about how many people have a Synology NAS; it’s close to what you’re describing, but it’s still a relatively niche product. People simply don’t care enough. What you’re describing could definitely work, but only once people start caring about this.

and if you trust your family they can get login to Radarr and Sonarr such that they can themselves pick out content they want available.

Jellyseerr is far better for this! And if you’re using Plex or Emby, Overseerr and Ombi should work for you.

“Quite within the realm of someone who’s got some computer skills” means “inaccessible to most people”. I don’t mean to sound like an ass about it, but most people just don’t care enough about this stuff to invest even a bit of time in it (nevermind the upfront cost for a Synology or Qnap NAS).

Realistically, the best solution is hosted and managed versions of FOSS apps where the private data is encrypted. Most people just don’t want to manage a server, and this solution would provide funding to FOSS projects while also increasing data sovereignty for non-self hosters.

As much as we all might want it to, self hosting will never be mainstream.

That seems like a symptom of deeper rooted issues, not proof that it’s porn.

Sounds like porn was a coping mechanism for you, not the root cause.

Why not exclude the folder you want to move from the initial sync, and sync that folder separately to the final location?

You can mount the complete backup as a local file system, which I think would suit your needs. I’m not familiar with their various integrations either, I just backup over SFTP.

But to reassure you, I also needed a bit of trial and error with Kopia, as it’s not the easiest GUI ever to get used to. But I’ve got it running now, and I’m very happy with it. I’ve also used it to successfully restore multiple backups (to test if it worked) and they all worked.

You should be able to achieve this with Kopia