• Syrc@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    I’m not even playing devil’s advocate for anyone, I just wanted to add why, in fact, the normalization of women hitting on men could be a solution to the problem.

    I’m not advocating for anything, because if you ask me “ok but how do we do that” I’d have no answer. Societal change is a hard thing to do and you can’t “normalize” something through sheer effort.

    It was just a hypothetical for a what-if scenario, you’re the one who interpreted it as me putting the responsibility on women. I know a woman can’t just go “ok I’m gonna start hitting on men” in today’s society and expect things to go well, it was just a theory about what would happen if we lived in a society where that was already the norm.

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      8 months ago

      You:

      this would probably solve itself if women hit on men as much as the opposite.

      Also you:

      you’re the one who interpreted it as me putting the responsibility on women.

      Okay dude. Whatever you say.

      And yes, societal change is hard, but just because you can’t think of any solutions, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. FWIW, there are plenty of practical ways to normalize behavior at the societal scale, some of the more violent & historically successful ones having already been mentioned earlier in this conversation.

      One of the most powerful (non-violent) examples that comes to mind: popular film.

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        8 months ago

        That was assuming it was already normalized. I didn’t mean it as “women should start hitting on men in the current society”. I said in that exact comment that it was just a theory.

        And if movies worked it would’ve already been normalized. I definitely remember more women than men flirting in movies I’ve seen. But it’s different there because they usually hit on the main character, and most of the times men complaining about that aren’t the ones getting hit on. They’re the jealous ones that wish it happened to them.

        (Just to be clear, yes, movies can work in normalizing stuff, just not on this specific topic imo.)

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          8 months ago

          We’re going in circles now. I already asked you what’s the point of considering such a hypothetical theory (which you admitted isn’t practical) other than to distract from the real issue?

          Idk what to tell you about film other than… anyone can make a film about anything.

          The only thing stopping men from writing (or approving) more film scripts, books and other art about this very topic… is simply the lack of effort.

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            8 months ago

            Every other comment chain in the thread is talking about “the real issue”. This one’s top comment was about normalizing women hitting on men, and I just wanted to chime in about that. It’s not like one chain talking about a different take invalidates every other discussion in here.