It is that scary. When I was a younger idiot, I was unintentionally pushy and implied to a lady that I was about to rawdog it. She was scared, and went home, and it’s completely my fault that I didn’t let her feel safe. I was too myopic to see that a little comment I made had affected her security.
Being a larger, more muscular human I could have put it in despite her protests. Being naked together isn’t consent for more than being naked together.
It is that scary. When I was a younger idiot, I was unintentionally pushy and implied to a lady that I was about to rawdog it. She was scared, and went home, and it’s completely my fault that I didn’t let her feel safe. I was too myopic to see that a little comment I made had affected her security.
Being a larger, more muscular human I could have put it in despite her protests. Being naked together isn’t consent for more than being naked together.
At least you learned the correct lesson from that about empathy instead of just saying “next time I won’t say anything. I’ll just raw dog it.”
People say I’m a “good guy” but honestly the bar is so low is doesn’t feel like a compliment because I know who they are coming me to.