I understand why you feel uncomfortable with the word “feminist”. I personally don’t believe that feminism is inherently anti-male, but I also can’t ignore the people whose behaviour doesn’t fit inside my definition of that term; to do otherwise would be doing the “No True Scotsman” fallacy. For me, identifying as a feminist means having to contend with that — that is to say that if I want feminism to account for the ways that men are fucked over by the patriarchy, then it’s important that I challenge hateful rhetoric in supposedly progressive spaces.
I understand why you feel uncomfortable with the word “feminist”. I personally don’t believe that feminism is inherently anti-male, but I also can’t ignore the people whose behaviour doesn’t fit inside my definition of that term; to do otherwise would be doing the “No True Scotsman” fallacy. For me, identifying as a feminist means having to contend with that — that is to say that if I want feminism to account for the ways that men are fucked over by the patriarchy, then it’s important that I challenge hateful rhetoric in supposedly progressive spaces.